Inside The Mind of a Man

Are you on a short leash?

Some common questions I have received:

“Why do guys say they’re going to call but they don’t?”

“Why do guys wait three days between calls?”

“Is it OK to call a guy after a date or should you wait for him to call?”

“Do guys wait for you to call them first?”

Now, I’m not an expert on “dating etiquette” (see ‘social norms’) but I am quite knowledgeable about dating and what should happen. I say should because this isn’t always the case and for one reason or other some guys feel they are an exception to the rule.

If a guy asks you on a date and he, afterwards, takes you home, he should call the next day, but not later than two days, to see if you want another date. Any longer than that and you may, right or not, feel as though the date wasn’t that great and he’s just not that interested.

If the guy does not take you home, he should call you when you are expected to be home to be certain you did make it home ok. At this time a second date should not be talked about, but again he should call the next day or not later than two days to catch things up with you.

Many times guys try to “take control” of the dating situation and play either hard to get (yes, very odd for guys, I know) or too clingy, both of which are very revealing situations.

Maybe it is poor manners, the guy just doesn’t know any better… whatever, don’t accept excuses!

If the guy is too laid back about calling you, then you can usually expect him to also put other things ahread opf building a relationship with you. Maybe it’s his friends, maybe it’s his job but no matter, expect to be second fiddle in  his life.

If he’s calling you too much, expect him to be all over you, what you do, where you go… you know, just clingy.

Both of these actions on the guy’s part happen all the time to us, at one point or another. But if you were to lay down the calling rules, the date followup, if you could control thes emoemnts, you will have a better chnace of training the guy as to your expectations, now and in the future.

Don’t be afraid of owning the moment when it comes to guys. Very often they just don’t have the confidence to make these decisions, or they don’t understand what us women really do want.

And more often or not, they’re just as happy to leave these decisions to us, just like all the important choices and decisions should be.

So take charge and don’t let a guy play these calling games on you.

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