Communicating With A Man
Is it true that men react more severely to stress during a “discussion” or “argument” with their significant other than women do?
Think about the last time you had a fight with the guy in your life (at that time).
Did he “shut down” and become unapproachable? Did he become “unresponsive”?
Is this because he didn’t want to continue the talk (or argument) or is it because there was so much stress happening that he just couldn’t process what was going on?
Yes.
He couldn’t answer you because there was so much stress, at that moment, that he literally DID shut down.
Can you follow how, then, he must have felt? Was he cornered? Or was he just not listening any more.
Men are logical thinkers, there is no disagreement to that; and women are emotional thinkers, there is no argument on that either.
So, when you have a logical and an emotional attempting to “meet halfway” on a subject, or be convinced of the other person’s side (opinion, answer, complaint, etc.), who is going to falter?
The logical, of course. Emotion always wins out and unless the man “fights back” by revealing his emotional side, he will always shut down in an argument.
He will become silent, and overwhelmed, and unable to process the argument from a logical standpoint.
And the woman will wonder why he isn’t listening… why he doesn’t offer any input, or even solutions (that otherwise he always offers, asked or not).
Then later, the next day perhaps, he will attempt to “pass over” the subject and relent towards the woman’s solution, after some logical consideration, of course.
To engage a man in a discussion, make the talk (the issue basis) more logical, and he will agree with you about a common resolution to the issue, usually.
At least you’ll have a better chance of him paying attention to you.
Read more about “Inside the Mind of a Man” here.
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