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This is a normal part of attraction and how you handle this moment of tension is going to play out in the relationship you both have in the following minutes, days and weeks, if there is any relationship at all.

The proper way to deal with tension in a budding relationship is with confidence and being positive. If you want to men to react positively towards you, you must be positive towards him; bright and bubbly always wins out.

If the man is cold and unfriendly, that’s a turnoff. If you are nervous and mumbling, that’s a turnoff.

To attract a good man you need to be an equally good woman, or there is a defect in the coming relationship. Maybe too much reliance on the other, too much enabling to be a healthy, loving and growing relationship.

But back to handling the tension in the first moments.

There are a few body language movements that you should make to keep your nervousness under control. If you’re sitting, sit up straight. If you are standing, stand up straight, pull your shoulders back, put your chin up, look the man directly into the eyes.

When you control your body language so that it reveals a positive tone you get control over your voice and your emotions are in check because of your positive stance.

And being in a positive stance will also control your mood and there’s nothing that’s more attractive to men, emotionally stable men, and a positive and assertive woman. As long as she doesn’t cross the line of being overly assertive and venturing into the “masculine zone”, which is another topic for another article and is also discussed in the “Inside the Mind of a Man” program.

If a handshake is offered, take it, if it is not offered, offer the handshake. Do not be afraid to make the first moves.

If you were to ask 100 men if they were offended when a woman made the first moves you would have 90 of them saying they would not be offended. So try not to be nervous, if it is up to you to make the first moves when you’re attracted to a man.

You want to keep in mind that often men have a harder time in talking with women, in dealing with this inner conflict, than they show.

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Wishing you better success in finding a healthy relationship,
Robert Lee

Think about the last time you had a fight with the guy in your life (at that time).

Did he “shut down” and become unapproachable? Did he become “unresponsive”?

Is this because he didn’t want to continue the talk (or argument) or is it because there was so much stress happening that he just couldn’t process what was going on?
Yes.

He couldn’t answer you because there was so much stress, at that moment, that he literally DID shut down.

Can you follow how, then, he must have felt? Was he cornered? Or was he just not listening any more.

Men are logical thinkers, there is no disagreement to that; and women are emotional thinkers, there is no argument on that either.

So, when you have a logical and an emotional attempting to “meet halfway” on a subject, or be convinced of the other person’s side (opinion, answer, complaint, etc.), who is going to falter?

The logical, of course. Emotion always wins out and unless the man “fights back” by revealing his emotional side, he will always shut down in an argument.

He will become silent, and overwhelmed, and unable to process the argument from a logical standpoint.

And the woman will wonder why he isn’t listening… why he doesn’t offer any input, or even solutions (that otherwise he always offers, asked or not).

Then later, the next day perhaps, he will attempt to “pass over” the subject and relent towards the woman’s solution, after some logical consideration, of course.

To engage a man in a discussion, make the talk (the issue basis) more logical, and he will agree with you about a common resolution to the issue, usually.

At least you’ll have a better chance of him paying attention to you.

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