To Have and To Hold…

Of course, it’s one of the promises made during a marriage ceremony, but the reality is that this promise is made after a few dates, that you have begiun the commitment phase of your relationship.

It’s expected that the guy will be there, at your side, at times of crisis, at times of upheaval.

The real question is, do you want him there?

If you’re uncertain about a guy you’re dating after five, or six dates, whether he would be there when you, unexpectedly, need him, do you continue the relationship?

I pose this question because it’s one of those “inner voices” that gets louder and louder as the relationship progresses.

And I will add that it’s OK to put the breaks on the relationship too, if you’re uncertain.

Guys, for the most part, undersatand that there is a certain amount of “proving themselves” that needs to be done, they just don’t know how to do it.

Relationships for guys are a walk in the park, until reality comes at them and they see that it’s a much bigger world than their narrow-sighted vision.

It’s not always your responsibility to open their eyes either…. only if they mean a whole lot more than the last guy you dated, anyways.

Go slow, don’t rush into the ‘commitment thing’ because he says he’s ready, wait until he proves he’s ready.

Because it’s the beginning of the promise.