Inside The Mind of a Man » power http://insidethemindofaman.org Everything You Need To Know About How Men Think, Feel & Communicate When It Comes To Love, Sex & Relationships Tue, 31 Aug 2010 15:57:52 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 She’s the Leader! http://insidethemindofaman.org/2009/09/shes-the-leader/ http://insidethemindofaman.org/2009/09/shes-the-leader/#comments Thu, 10 Sep 2009 01:36:54 +0000 Robert http://insidethemindofaman.org/?p=46 One of the main issues that hangs over a relationship is who leads, who directs the way the relationship progresses and grows?

Is this something that should be left up to the guy?

No, of course not. Unless you just want to “hang around” and “hang out” all the time.

If you leave the decision of where to go and what to do to the guy what do you get?
“Let’s go somewhere and do something” is what you get.

No commitment to anything real, just an “idea” of what to do… an “abstract” thing.
That’s what you get.

Now, as the woman of the relationship, if you have the “plan”, if you decide the “place” he will follow along because every guy hates to be wrong, so by following your lead he doesn’t make a mistake about entertaining you.

Think about that for a minute:
By choosing what to do, and telling your guy what you want to do together, you are actually re-inforcing his masculinity, ensuring his maleness and helping him to avoid rejection, the number one fear every guy has.

When a woman accepts “something” and “somewhere” as the place and time to be together you are actually being submissive and as that you lose respect and interest from the guy you’re with.

If you accept only firm plans from your guy, and are ready to tell him specifically what to do and when as a date, then you gain not only control over your relationship but you gain interest from your guy because he can’t (usually) disappoint you when you decide what to do.

If you a guy, when you first are dating or even if the relationship hasn’t gone so far yet, if you only accept solid plans of what to to with him, if you only accept a date when it’s asked for a couple of days in advance, if you never immediately reply to a text or voicemail, you will have control over how the guy sees you, acts towards you, and respects you.

And he will understand that you are a woman of value, high value, that demands his best.
And he will either choose to give you his best or choose to not be involved with you.

That will show you, within days of first meeting/dating him, how you will be treated throughout the rest of your relationship, should there be one.

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You may be suspected of being “selfish” but if you aren’t looking out after your own interests, just who is?

The guy you’re dating? Is he that wonderful or is he just the real selfish person, always demanding of you, never considering your feelings?

Is this how you want to tun your life?
Really?

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